Family Communicational Style with Children and it's Reflection on Children's Personality Development
Faisal Matalka, Aqaba University College, Al-Balqa Applied University, Aqaba, Jordan.
Abstract
Inadequate parent-child communication is a problem that many families face, especially those with teenagers.
On one hand, children complain that they are depressed and lonely because no one shares their difficulties and pressures. In spite of their comfortable material life, they are miserable internally. They accuse their parents of not understanding them, of not offering emotional support.
On the other hand, parents are hurt by their children’s accusation, because they have been doing so much for them. They also feel wrong because they think that they are always ready to communicate with their children who are not interested in talking to them. It pains many parents to find that their children are indifferent to them.
Obviously, both parents and children suffer from this problem, who is to blame? In my opinion, the responsibility mainly lies with the parents.
Therefore this paper make an effort to understand and specify the different communication patterns which can be used by parents to make children feel loved and accepted. The author has placed emphasis on both the verbal and non-verbal aspect of communication. How accepting a parent is of his child and vice-versa, can be seen in the communication styles that they use with each other. This is discussed with the help of true case examples from our society. Some ways by which people in the helping profession (Counselors, child and family guidance workers social worker and others). Can influence and motivate parents to accept their children are also briefly discussed.